Thanks to COVID-19, chances are you have been stuck at home with your child for what seems like forever-and-a-day. To add insult to injury, millions of children are not going back to school anytime soon. Most likely, January. So, if you’re asking yourself, How in the hell am I going to survive this madness, then keep reading for a few tips to save your sanity…
1. Get over yourself. YOU CANNOT DO IT ALL!
Admittedly, it took some time, but I finally learned, I’m not a superhero. Being a boss mom, wife, domestic diva, and get my work done all on the same day is crazy hard and should be avoided at all costs. I’d half-ass so much inevitably I’d have to go back and do it again. So, rather than stress out about doing it all, I do what can and I’m happy with that.
2. Create a safe place for both of you.
Create a place in your home where you can leave your child for a few minutes and walk away. When Oliver was a baby, it was his crib, then eventually his pack-n-play in front of the TV or window, and now, the iPad. (That’s right, I let my kid watch TV before 2 years old. Judge me. I don’t care.) Tip: No, Pack-n-play? The highchair with a snack is a good spot.
|I LOVE this photo… it’s a 10-month old Ollie!
Again, this is a 10-15 minute fix. Not a babysitter! A few minutes away can do both of you a tremendous amount of good. Get your shit together. And get back in the trenches.
For the Big Kids (4+), I’ve found making up a task for my son to do is great for buying a few quiet minutes, or more… folding the clothes in his drawers for a treat. Or hide something in the house and send your child on a treasure hunt, or sort toys or read a book and give a book report to earn a treat.
The point of the ‘safe place‘ is so YOU BOTH can have a time-out whenever needed. The minute you are going to lose your shit, and it happens to the best of us when we have a child attached to our ass 24/7.
3. Play with your child(ren), don’t just go through the motions.
I’ve found if I mentally prepare myself for giving my son undivided attention for the next five to ten minutes, I can relax enough to play wholeheartedly and appreciate every minute. I’ve also found that all my son wants is a few minutes of my attention before he is satisfied and off to the next stop in his day. I’ll also offer ideas of things to do I enjoy as well like coloring or a board game. We both have way more fun, I get up feeling like a good mom, and my son is happy to resume his solo play. It makes SUCH a difference.
5. Plan ahead to get ahead.
As soon as you finish reading this post, grab a pen and paper and write down activities both in the house and out you enjoy doing with your child. Make a separate list of activities your child(ren) enjoy doing on their own. Cut each idea into a strip of paper and throw it in a jar. When y’all get bored, pull an idea from the jar.
6. The art of Art is truly an Art.
I don’t care how old you are, arts and crafts are always fun! Plan a few creative projects to do as a family. Paint a room, redecorate, buy cheap frames to paint and personalize, then take fun photos or find old ones for the new frames. Make wind chimes from sticks and rocks in the backyard or found on a walk. Or make your own frameable art!
For more fun family crafts check out my Family Crafts Pinterest board.
6. This Too Shall Pass
When you are feeling overwhelmed, remember this too shall pass and when it does you will miss it very, very, very much.
Have a Stay At Home Parent survival tip? Please share!