My Toddler Is Playing Too Rough (Advice from Moms)


This week, I received an e-mail about a toddler playing too rough from her mom:

“My 2-year-old started pushing other kids around her age two months ago. She is quite tall and big for her age so she is pretty strong. She loves younger babies and plays very well with bigger kids on the other hand. I felt extremely bad today that she pushed another toddler like 3-4 times in an indoor playground. That kid was obviously scared of her being near in the end and her mom scolded my daughter despite my efforts to correct the misbehavior. My daughter will be going to preschool soon, please help!”

Why is my toddler so rough?

When Toddlers Play Rough

I wanted to reach out to hug this mom because I know how it feels to not understand something and not feel like you can fix it.  

In the meantime, here is some advice for when your toddler is playing too rough.

First, know that you are not alone in this situation.  It is a common situation with young kids.  Often it feels like toddlers are acting out.  Sometimes it feels like there is no reason behind the behavior.  Either way, there are ways to make things better for the kids around them!

If Your Toddler Is Playing Too Rough - mom speaking to a toddler sitting on bed
Can you really talk it out with a toddler?

If Your Toddler Is Playing Too Rough, Talk To Them

Kids are way smarter than we give them credit for. Sometimes just talking helps a little. Make sure you are even with their eye level!

  • Many times, toddlers act out in this way because they are limited in vocabulary, so it seems to be the only way they can communicate. Are there triggers that are causing him/her to act out in this way? 
  • Before playgroup, tell your friends that you are currently working on this struggle with your child. Being upfront about it can be hard, but help them understand that you are aware.
  • Encourage your child and remind them that they are kind. Speaking truth into your child can help them feel boosted in their mindset.
  • After a successful playgroup, praise your child and encourage through positive words!
Strategies for dealing with a rough toddler - distraction, preparation and entertainment can help keep smiles on faces - girls laughing
A little playtime preparation goes a long way to avoiding rough play between toddlers.

Teach With Your Actions If Your Toddler Is Playing Too Rough 

Toddlers pick up many of their social cues at home, so make sure you are practicing what you preach.  So if you are thinking that your 1 year old or 2 year old or 3 year old or 4 year old is very aggressive, these can help:

  • Role play at home with baby dolls. Act out different scenarios. This also makes for great playtime!
  • When you are home, practice kindness. Play with the stuffed animals and show how they are kind during a tea party, when playing outside, etc.
  • Be their example.  If you want something, say “I really wanted that, but I will not push you. I will just ask you for it.”
If Your Toddler Is Being Too Rough - discipline is a difficult solution - boy standing at wall in time out
Time out is WAY down on the list of solutions. Try the strategies above first.

Set Boundaries If Your Toddler Is Playing Too Rough

Disciplining is one of the hardest parts of parenting. Yet, boundaries and routine are necessary for a child to thrive, feel safe, and know what’s expected of them.

  • On your way to the playgroup, remind your child of the expectations.
  • While it may be frustrating, you may need to stay near her during the playgroup as you can intervene when needed. If you sense her ready to act out, you can remind her of kindness and how to interact with friends.
  • If the child acts out, have them sit in time out. Remind them that if they cannot act kindly, they will have to sit out for a time.
  • When your child does hit, stay positive and remove them from the situation. Remind them that you love them but you cannot hit others because it hurts them.
  • Stay consistent. It takes time to train children and a lot of repetition.

Comment below with your tips on how to handle the situation when a toddler is playing too rough!





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